5 Seconds To Smashing More Arguments With NLP

 

Last time the used car salesman pitched a lemon at you, he called the high price tag an "investment." Didn't sound so bad did it? He gift wrapped his words.

When you were fired, they called it a strategic downsizing. Now that didn't make you any better off... but it sure sounded nicer than being "fired"

Euphemisms are efficient linguistic tactics to counter objections. The key is to redefine certain words in an antagonist's statement such that his objection no longer seems so overwhelming.

Through redefinition we create new "frame" meanings about a behaviour by re-labeling a key word that's part of the belief statement. The relabeling frames the entire belief statement with a new meaning.

Redefinition asserts that "X doesn't mean Y, it means Z" Since X=Z and not Y, we now have a totally new belief statement. hopefully a more empowering one.

Here are some questions you can test yourself with to increase your flexibility at reframing: What meanings have other people given to this objection/ belief?

What other meanings could I attribute this behavior? What value could this belief have in other nations or cultures?

The secret to reframing: Simply replace one of the key words in the argument such that it subtly changes the sentence's meaning.

1. "It doesn't mean x, it means y"
2. "It doesn't cause x," it causes y"
3. "If you really want to see a case of x, consider."

Let's do some reframes, after all, practice makes perfect.

Objection: You were too tough on your employees; it's unkind! How do you expect to motivate them?

Answer: I agree that they might be hurt at first. But tough words also have its place. In this instance, I'm actually not criticizing without just cause. I'm simply expressing my feelings so they'll know where I stand. Would you rather I lied? You believe in assertive conversation, don't you?

Objection: You're tardy for the umpteenth time. You don't care about me.

Answer: My being late doesn't imply I don't care. It means I had a lot of things to do at work today; it also means I want to get everything out of my mind so when I get home I can fully relish being with you and show you how much I truly care!

How To Buy Designer Bags With Confidence

It can be difficult buying a designer bag these day. With the proliferation of on line sites selling fakes as authentic and unscrupulous salespeople. With all the designer knock-offs being called "authentic" it's easy to be misguided into spending way too much money for a fake without knowing it.

There is a difference between buying a designer knock-off and knowing it and being told you're buying the actual bag when it's not.

When you see that Chloe python Silverado bag on i offer you are told it is 7 star quality and mirror image up front, that's honest salesmanship. I don't see a problem with knowingly buying a designer knock off. However, watch these knock-offs too. There are many different qualities. Some will sell an inferior quality knock-off bag for much more than it's worth. I saw a seller on i offer who offered the same exact bag for two very different prices. When I questioned her as to why the same exact bag was being sold for two different prices her reply was that she had to "fix" her description. Hmmmmm. I have also noticed nothing in the description of these bags has changed. I wonder how many people have unwittingly paid for the more expensive of the two bags. Investigate before you buy.

Know the old sayings "if it's too good to be true it probably is" and "you get what you pay for" hold true. You can be assured that lovely Fendi Spy Bag on that online auction, the one starting at $249.00, the one with the bright yellow Fendi tag is not the real thing. No one would offer an authentic Fendi Spy Bag for $249.00.

Who you're purchasing the bag from is of utmost importance. You can be guaranteed that when purchasing that Prada bag from Nieman Marcus or that Gucci from Bergdorf Goodman you're getting an authentic bag, although perhaps not a deal. Check the e-luxury site. Louis Vuitton is one of the actual owners of the e-luxury site. Purchase your Coach bag from their online site. Needless to say authenticity is guaranteed.

Before purchasing a bag on e bay visit their Community Chat Room. There is a wealth of information on how to detect counterfeit bags. Even an e bay "powerseller" can be offering fake bags. When e bay is alerted about a particular seller it may take them some time to investigate. During the time it takes for the investigation the seller could have sold many counterfeit bags. E bay has shut down dealers selling counterfeit bags, but even e bay cannot protect you from all the unscrupulous sellers out there.

Some buyers take their bags to stores like Nieman Marcus or Lord & Taylor to have them authenticated AFTER they purchase them. These department stores will not give a written authentication on a particular bag, but the salesperson will probably tell you whether or not they think the bag is authentic. Don't purchase a bag from anyone without a money back guarantee - ever. If they don't offer a money back guarantee you can be assured the bag isn't authentic. Even if it's the bag of your dreams don't buy it. There will be another one.

Don't be fooled thinking that only authentic bags have holograms and serial numbers. Those that make their money producing knock off bags are on their toes and keep up with any changes made in authentic bags. Even more importantly, when you see a bag for sale anywhere, do you really know what the hologram should look like? Do you know if the serial number should be on a separate metal plate or embossed inside the bag? Should the name Gucci also seen imprinted on the hardware on an authentic bag?

The best way to protect yourself when making ANY purchase is to educate yourself.

BIKIN GAME

        Sering main game ? atau mungkin kadang-kadang? minimal pernah main game kan? jangan bilang belum pernah . Semua orang tahu kalau bermain game memang mengasyikkan, karena itu kadang saking asyiknya kita bisa lupa waktu, apalagi game-game populer zaman sekarang umumnya dibutuhkan waktu berjam-jam untuk menyelesaikannya. Seru?… Tapi pernahkah terpikir, di sela-sela waktu istirahat yang mungkin tadinya ingin main game, untuk membuat game sendiri? hahaha (ketawa ga jelas… ehm) di waktu liburan kemarin (pas akhir juni), Saya iseng-iseng baca buku membuat game dengan flash. wah ternyata tidak sulit toh membuat game yang sederhana, akhirnya tertarik untuk mencoba-coba juga. Dan setelah semalaman begadang (asli ngga bisa tidur klo blom selesai…) dan sesudah beberapa kali perbaikan berikut inilah hasilnya:

gambar 1. tampilan pembuka game ini

Judul gamenya sendiri sebenarnya ntah bingung juga ngasi nama, tapi karena tokoh utama di game ini si pinguin Tux jadi Saya namakan ’ TuxMainGame’. Adapun cara memainkannya sederhana saja, hindari bom dan untuk menambah skor ambil makanan sebanyak-banyaknya… –hanya itu saja, gampang kan. Kurang menantang? Jangan khawatir, seperti juga game yang lain setiap naik level tentu saja tingkat kesulitannya semakin bertambah. Acuan pemenangnya adalah yang menjadi top scorer (bisa dilihat di menu depan game) semakin besar skornya maka ranknya akan semakin naik (ya iyalah…).

gambar 2. tampilan pada saat bermain

Ayo, yang mau nyoba gamenya silakan download disini : http://banyak-game-seru.blogspot.com/ (ukuran file zip 2,2 MB)

Catatan:

1) Sebenarnya artikel yang ini mau Saya buat tutorialnya juga. tapi apa boleh buat, karena baru pertama kali mencoba buat jadi isinya masih acak-acakan (karena dulu yang terpikir itu yang penting bisa jadi dulu), ActionScriptnya juga pabalatak disana-sini… kurang bagus kalau buat tutorial. Karena Saya programmernya, ya iyalah Saya ngerti. Tapi kalau orang lain yang mau ngedit kan harus ekstra keras memahami betapa belepotannya program Saya ini. Sekali lagi harap maklum, InsyaAllah kalau sempat Saya buat tutorial singkat ‘membuat game dengan flash’.

• • UPDATE: sekarang udah ada di http://games-terbaru.blogspot.com/
  • UPDATE LAGI: contoh game lain http://cara-bikin-game.blogspot.com/

2) Game ini berupa file flash projector yang dibuat menggunakan Flash CS3. gambar2 tux, kue, bom, dan ikan diambil dari sebuah situs grafis, background game diambil dari gambar2 wallpaper, font yang dipakai: Corbel.

3) btw, sebenarnya artikel ini juga ditampilkan karena komentar Saya dulu di sebuah blog.

4) yang membaca tulisan ini atau mencoba game ini silakan beri komentar…